The Power of Automaticity: How to Pause or Amplify It in Work and Life
Are you ever in a conversation and realize that your mind has completely drifted away? Do you feel like you’re going through the motions in life, without really being present? If so, you may be experiencing automaticity – and it’s more common than you think. In this special bonus episode of The Squeeze, we’re diving into the topic of automaticity and exploring how it can impact your relationships, work, and overall quality of life. Join me as we uncover the pros and cons of automaticity, and learn practical strategies for managing it effectively in all areas of your life.
Tune in as I explore how it can negatively impact relationships by causing a lack of conscious engagement. I also discuss the unique distinctions between conscious and unconscious automaticity, how to pause or amplify automaticity depending on the circumstance, and how to live a life by design, rather than by default.
And as with everything I share on the podcast, this is what I believe based on what I’ve read and researched. But please don’t take my word for it. Keep what sticks, discard the rest and for goodness sakes, go out and test drive it!
What You’ll Learn In Today’s Episode:
What automaticity is defined as.
What the pros and cons are of automaticity.
How it impacts relationships.
The distinctions between conscious and unconscious automaticity.
The inherent challenges with unconscious automaticity.
How to work with automaticity to pause or amplify it.
What Was Mentioned:
Psychology of Automaticity by TM Wheatley and DM Wenger
The Leader Habit: Master the Skills You Need to Lead–in Just Minutes a Day by Martin Lanik
Saying What’s Real: Seven Keys to Authentic Communication and Relationship Success by Susan Campbell
The Thinking Trap (LinkedIn)
What Is Automaticity? by Kendra Cherry
The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins
Ideas Worth Sharing:
“Once you scratch the surface, there is a lot more than meets the eye.” – Christina Sestan
“But with nuance, we can actually hang around long enough to have an interesting conversation that might change both our minds.” – Christina Sestan
“When one steps back to consider the wide range of unconscious automatic responses that are present in any relationship, is it any wonder there is so much conflict?” – Christina Sestan
“It’s important to understand that unconscious automaticity can arise from our own internal experiences as well as our experiences of the external world.” – Christina Sestan
“Have you ever had an experience where too much thinking actually throws you off?” – Christina Sestan
“Overall, we risk living more by default than by design.” – Christina Sestan
“But the good news is that no matter where you would rate your partnership, helping it to thrive again doesn’t actually take that much effort. It’s just that the effort it does take may seem strange.” – Christina Sestan
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